Divorced and dating over 40
They won’t be interested in pumping your ego or making you feel young.Rather they will be someone who will have realistic expectations of you and be accepting of who you are at this time of your life.They know who they are and why their marriage failed and are looking for pure companionship.They probably won’t be in “awe” of you and hang on your every word. Don’t assume you and your partner see things in the same way or that your partner can read your mind. Moments will arise when your judgment about your partner will be put to the test. Like you, your partner is imperfect and deserves the benefit of the doubt. Keep in mind that a good relationship is based on each person’s ability to be supportive of those differences.
Recognize the power you have to be successful in your dating pursuits and use it. Not everything your date says or does will sit well with you. Take ownership of what is yours and communicate it honestly and directly. Those of you in your 40s and 50s are in a wonderful period of your lives.But John canceled on Friday, saying that his ex-wife wanted to talk about reconciliation. She didn’t want to get back together with her ex, but she’d have the discussion with him if he asked.“Part of being divorced and dating is accepting that you each had a life with someone else,” she says.The paradox is that your maturity offers you many advantages over the youthful daters. Knowing yourself better and being able to size up others more skillfully gives you a big advantage. You likely have greater financial freedom to enjoy fancy dinners and getaways. You are more sexually confident and liberated than you were in your youth. Physical appearance, the type of car one drives and other status symbols take a back seat to more important personal attributes. The days of scraping together enough money for a movie are over!